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Ok, so you’ve read all the articles, talked to your friends, maybe even checked out some books, but it still puzzles you how men go from talking to beautiful women at the club to bringing her back home for some late-night fun. There are a whole range of articles out there on how to successfully talk to women and warm them up to you, but how do you close the deal? How do you go from just the nice guy who bought her a drink to the sexy but safe guy she wants some alone time with? It’s a challenge, but it’s not impossible. There’s no “secret formula” to picking up beautiful, confident, sexy women but there are a few things you can do to increase your chances greatly.

1. Flirt with her, but not too much

Have you ever noticed the over-the-top guy in the room that is all over one woman? He’s putting everything he’s got to seal the deal as if she’s the last woman on the face of the planet who’s got the goods. Not only is this a huge turn-off, but it’s also pathetic. All of the guys in the room are laughing at him and all of the women are thinking he’s a player and too pushy.

On the other hand, that’s not to say that women don’t like to be flirted with. Flirting itself is a mating dance, something that all creatures on earth do and we’re not exempt from it. Flirting has the benefit of breaking the ice and getting comfortable with the other person, and also revving up sexual desire for the bedroom later. The key to flirting is simple – flirt confidently, flirt briefly, and flirt often. This will increase intrigue, interest and jealousy – all of which are huge turn ons.

If you’re asking yourself “how do I flirt? What does that mean?” you’re not alone. Many guys struggle with this, and there’s an easy way to do it even for beginners. Ever notice that if anyone does anything in a confident and/or funny way he or she is instantly the most interesting and popular person in the room? The same thing applies to flirting with women. Whether you have the most interesting line or the perfect haircut or whatever it may be, it doesn’t mean a thing without confidence. Therefore, the key to flirting is making that first approach confidently, being yourself, and just talking to her.

2. When things start to get comfortable, change things up

When talking and flirting with a woman it is easy to get comfortable and end up giving up much of the intrigue and interest that you have been trying to build all night. After all, in a nightclub filled with people socializing, do you want to be the one guy who’s alone? Of course not, and that’s understandable. As a result, you stay there and talk with this woman but notice she’s getting less and less interested.

How do you solve this problem? You leave… for now. Leaving when the conversation is at its highest point is the best thing you can do. This tells her two important things – a. you have other people to talk to and you’re not a loner and b. you’re not needy and can be a man. No one likes the idea of a boring and wussy man who is going to need her for emotional support. Be the man and take control and you’ll be surprised at the results.

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